Grief

Beverley Pugh

Mastery Practice Tool

The Matrix

Imagine a house with many rooms. Each room has a door. Pick a door and go into that room. In that room are the feelings and experiences you chose when you chose that door. So choose the door and the room. If it doesn't feel good, pick another door and another room. I did this continually when my dog died. I went into the room of guilt, and of course that is the feeling I would experience. So I went back and chose another door, one of gratitude, or joy. When we choose this way, it doesn't mean we suppress our sadness or emotions. But to move on we must bring in choice, by consciously choosing the feelings we want to experience. Be aware of a thought that holds guilt. If you want to release this thought, then consciously chose another door in your house. We experience what we choose. I love the door analogy! Reflection and choice are powerful.

Testimonial

Our ability, as parents, to support our children to thrive in stressful situations is becoming more and more important. Children need very specific tools in their self regulation 'tool kits' that they can draw upon to support their success, and trusted adults to coach them in their use. But what are these tools and how to we teach them effectively to our kids?

Thankfully, there is Beverley Pugh! Bev takes a curious and calm approach to supporting children and parents with this journey. She is passionately invested in teaching parents and children ways to reduce anxiety and approach life positively and confidently. Bev is a master of her craft - she draws on years of her own experience as a parent and counsellor to work effectively and respectfully with children and their parents. I have thoroughly enjoyed Bev's recent workshops for parents and children and recommend them to anyone willing to explore specific strategies to help their children thrive at home, at school and in their community.

Lani M. - Parent and Elementary School Principal