Beverley Pugh

Mastery Practice Tool

Cooling Yourself Down

To be able to listen and respect our partner or children we often have to cool down, calm down and find our internal equilibrium. To start a conversation with a high temperature is asking for more heat. Use the ‘Bathroom Technique’. Before a conversation that you know will hold emotion, prepare yourself. If your partner is aware, they will prepare themselves as well. The bathroom is a great place to focus because it has a lock. You have some moments of safety! Belly breathe, then set your stance to one of curiosity and listening. Ground yourself - meaning send your energy down to the earth, not up to your mouth. Sometimes we are caught off guard, especially by our kids. I have become an expert in grounding and staying centred through breath in any moment. You can as well. Remember to send your energy down, not up or scattered! Keep building your resource kit!

Testimonial

Our ability, as parents, to support our children to thrive in stressful situations is becoming more and more important. Children need very specific tools in their self regulation 'tool kits' that they can draw upon to support their success, and trusted adults to coach them in their use. But what are these tools and how to we teach them effectively to our kids?

Thankfully, there is Beverley Pugh! Bev takes a curious and calm approach to supporting children and parents with this journey. She is passionately invested in teaching parents and children ways to reduce anxiety and approach life positively and confidently. Bev is a master of her craft - she draws on years of her own experience as a parent and counsellor to work effectively and respectfully with children and their parents. I have thoroughly enjoyed Bev's recent workshops for parents and children and recommend them to anyone willing to explore specific strategies to help their children thrive at home, at school and in their community.

Lani M. - Parent and Elementary School Principal