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Oct
13
2015

How Learning to Listen Saved My Marriage

ListeningI have a temper, a bad temper. And I can swear and be disrespectful. Then I feel bad afterward and ashamed of myself. My wife referred me for counselling. Of course I thought that she was the one that needed it. Bev pulled in both of us. I learned that I go straight to trying to fix things and solve problems. I never even thought of the first step…listening to understand. At first I thought it sounded hokey. But we decided to do it because the way we were trying was getting us nowhere. I found it really hard at the beginning. I felt so impatient. I kept interrupting my wife because I felt like everything she was saying was wrong and unfair. In the end Bev sat between us, and I learned how to slow down. Now I breathe and listen and focus, and so does my wife. I want my son to learn this because he has a temper like me. I get it now. I am a slow learner.

George

 

Tags: awareness, Bev Pugh, Counselling, emotions, learn, listen, love, temper, understand
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Nov
11
2013

Speaking of moving…by Mary Anne Lloyd

on the right track - keep movingOne of my favorite quotes by Mark Twain goes something like this.

“Even if we’re on the right track, we’ll get hit by a train if we don’t keep moving!”

Sometimes we really can’t figure out what to do or sometimes we don’t even know what we would like to do.  How are we supposed to do something when we don’t even know what it is that we will enjoy?  “Find a hobby,” says a therapist.  Really?

And that’s where moving becomes fun.  If we just keep moving in some way, we’re bound to bump into something.  We may not like everything, and sometimes we may run for cover, but generally we stumble across something interesting.  And moving doesn’t have to be formal.  It can be as simple as speaking to the person behind us in line at the grocery store.  It can be striking up conversations with those we see during the week, like the person in the bank. It can be going for a walk in a dog park and meeting dogs and their owners.  Someone we meet may suddenly break into song, or tell us a funny story, or tell us about a caretakers group that we desperately need. Someone may be looking for a yoga buddy. Someone may make us laugh.

We might end up getting a dog.  We might end up helping at the SPCA. We might end up at a Toastmasters meeting just to see what it’s like. We might learn about a good movie to rent on a Friday night. We may learn about some funny play going on in the neighborhood. We may just have a nicer hour in our day.

We can’t always foresee what movement will bring, but life seems to open up in unexpected ways.  And we sure don’t want to get hit by a train.

Tags: forward, keep moving, learn, Mary Anne Lloyd, right track
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Beverley Pugh

Beverley Pugh

Beverley Pugh has international experience in Individual, Marital and Family Therapist services. Areas of practice include counselling in: individual, couples, family, anxiety, addictions, grief, depression, pain management, multicultural, workplace and others.

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About Beverley

Beverley Pugh has international experience in Individual, Marital and Family Therapist services. Areas of practice include counselling in: individual, couples, family, anxiety, addictions, grief, depression, pain management, multicultural, workplace and others.

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604-925-1513
Email:
bev@beverleypugh.com
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V7T 1B8
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