I have a temper, a bad temper. And I can swear and be disrespectful. Then I feel bad afterward and ashamed of myself. My wife referred me for counselling. Of course I thought that she was the one that needed it. Bev pulled in both of us. I learned that I go straight to trying to fix things and solve problems. I never even thought of the first step…listening to understand. At first I thought it sounded hokey. But we decided to do it because the way we were trying was getting us nowhere. I found it really hard at the beginning. I felt so impatient. I kept interrupting my wife because I felt like everything she was saying was wrong and unfair. In the end Bev sat between us, and I learned how to slow down. Now I breathe and listen and focus, and so does my wife. I want my son to learn this because he has a temper like me. I get it now. I am a slow learner.
George
