“The way I see myself and feel about myself affects my relationship with every other person.” ~ Bev Pugh

I know for myself, my confidence and my ability to listen to inner wisdom are all influenced immensely by my relationship with myself. I believe that is a truth for us all. Do we really love ourselves, or is our relationship with ourselves conditional? For most of us it is conditional. Conditional on how successful we are, how attractive, how talented, how popular, etc.

Many of us are parents, desire to be parents one day, or are mentoring our children who are parents. There is so much wisdom we can have access to when we are parenting our children from a place of accepting ourselves. We are more than ‘good enough’ and our children are more than ‘good enough’.

The word love that we hear so much about, is a deep intrinsic love for ourselves that is not based on performance or outside expectations of what is socially acceptable.

It is on the basis of self-love that change is built. This is our foundation. Everything else is “trying” and “good intentions”. The foundation is all about loving ourselves unconditionally which means with our warts and patterns and gifts ..the whole “enchilada “. I really encourage you to turn your focus inwards to your heart for yourself.

I truly believe that when we love ourselves, we are able to love others in a way that is not conditional or holding judgement.

I invite you, this month of February, to be your own valentine and nurture your capacity to love yourself unconditionally with all your ‘stuff’. We are all human. Don’t let your past be a reason for you not cultivating a true sense of unconditional self-love.

This is big stuff. And so are we!!!

Remember: what we bring to our relationships, is what we experience inside of us.

Keep your focus on your heart and know that the truth is that we all have the same beautiful intrinsic value.