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Sharing My Favourite Metaphor

September 12th, 2016

A picture says a thousand words

“A Picture Says a Thousand Words” ~ A wise saying

The month of September can be very challenging as we gear up for the September to June challenge. I would like to share a special metaphor that has served me well in life. I can thank my Dad for it. This metaphor has helped me be wise in difficult times.

I grew up in Toronto and at the age of 19, my Dad taught me how to drive. He drove me to Yorkdale, a large shopping mall, at night when no one was there. We would drive around and around. He insisted I learn a standard. We had an automatic, but he held firm despite my whining. He said total freedom to go anywhere in the world meant learning how to drive a stick shift. We all have different definitions of freedom!!

So I nervously stripped the gears, and the car leapt forward. Dad and I bounced around as I made one mistake after another. But Dad was firm and determined, so we endured through my learning. Over time, the mistakes became less and I was reading the terrain while managing the inside workings of the car. I had to stay alert. In an automatic you don’t have to pay as much attention to the motor so you can kind of be on autopilot, but not with a standard. Quite a difference between the two.

When I began lecturing at the University of Toronto, I remember thinking that life is like driving a stick shift. So many of us are on autopilot and snooze through life. We lose the muscle required to stay awake and “drive” with clarity.

We pop pills, have a drink, blame someone else (this is a biggie), zone out in front of the TV, or spend money. We don’t build the muscle of awareness and choice. We become more reactive rather than creatively alive. Discernment isn’t always a skill we learn.

Life requires us to read the terrain, know what is going on inside of us, hold perspective, observe, take action, and know when to go into our heart and when to use our thinking mind….so many skills. This is important for us to know about life. Life is like a stick shift, not an automatic. What a profound insight!!

Knowing when to move forward, when to pause and allow for integration, and when to reverse or step back is important for our health – emotional and physical. But is takes alertness, awareness and commitment. No snoozing, unless you are aware you are consciously taking a break.

In this month of September demands will come our way, and themes like pacing, listening to our bodies, and honouring our needs become important navigational tools. Most of us don’t listen to our bodies. We are thinking, and the thought navigates us rather than what our bodies need. This is an important month for self-care as we gear up for the fall and its plans.

In life, as with driving a car with a stick shift, we need to find balance of the external terrain and what is happening inside of us. It is important to be accountable to ourselves.

Enjoy this metaphor as a reminder of balancing life and staying wise.

Tags: alert, aware, balance, Beverley Pugh, choice, conscious, emotional, life, listening, physical
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5 Responses

  1. Wendy Bethune says:
    September 14, 2016 at 10:52 am

    Terrific article Bev, I might use it VERY use to share. and digest for myself . I love the reminders you send!

    I also see there are two cards here for the 16th from your house . We will open them tighter on Friday. Thanks so much. Love. Wendy

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    • admin says:
      September 15, 2016 at 7:02 pm

      Thanks Wendy..I am glad you enjoyed it.
      And Happy Birthday on Friday !!! A special day
      Bev xxoo

      Reply
  2. Wendy Bethune says:
    September 14, 2016 at 5:42 pm

    Great message. I will read this over and share!

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    • Wendy Bethune says:
      September 14, 2016 at 5:43 pm

      Great message Be. I will reread this and share too!

      Reply
  3. Drew McEwan says:
    September 15, 2016 at 6:59 pm

    Greetings and thank you.
    My mother (Brenda McEwan) used your services many years ago and she sent me this link. I live in Whistler and was wondering if you have any suggestions as to a councilor here. I very much like how you articulated yourself here and would like to find someone who shares your insight.
    I apologize if this is inappropriate.
    Thankfully, Drew McEwan

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